| Location | Wolverhampton, England |
| Age | 0 |
| Date of Birth | 6/2006 |
| Date of Death | 6/2006 |
| Visitors | 2,576 since 10/01/2008 |
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****To all the wonderful gts friends who continue to light Alfonsos candles when I dont manage to, I can never thank you enough or say how much I apreciate it all. I find it very hard coming on here and I am sorry if weeks go by and I dont light a candle for your dearly loved and missed child. I think of you all often and I wish you all gentle peaceful days****
Alfonso Mongiovi came into our lives for just 22 minutes on Sunday June 25th 2006 at 11.29am. He died due to Vasa Preavia** which caused him to lose the majority of his blood whilst still in my tummy and was subsequently starved of oxygen. Alfonso was fullterm and arrived on his due date. Such a beautiful beautiful perfect boy with no blemishes or marks on his delicate warm face who just looked fast asleep as I held him for the first time a short while later. I never saw Alfonso alive neither did my husband. The only consolation we have of that day is that he died with me in the room and that he wasn't just surrounded by strangers. The paediatrician tried desperately to bring his heart rate up to then be able to try a transfusion but our darling boy was simply too weak and after 22 minutes she made the very brave decision to stop trying.
19 months later I sit and write this and I am still full of angst and grief for a life that was cut so tragically short and yet should have been allowed to grow and flourish here on earth. It was a trouble free pregnancy. I guess I was only to carry him in my tummy and never in my arms. Not a day goes by that my husband and I and our families don't think of Alfonso. He was our first baby and the first grandchild. I miss him more than I will EVER be able to explain to anyone. A piece of my husband and I went with him that day. The pain of losing a child can only be known by those who experience it. I pray each night that where ever he is that he is warm, happy and growing as he should have done with us.
From the moment we found out we were expecting you Alfonso we were elated at the thought of becoming parents. Even though you have been parted from us we will ALWAYS be your Mommy and Daddy and you will ALWAYS be our very special boy and our first baby. We always talk about you and you are included in all of the things that we do. Thank you for a beautiful 9 months inside Mommy's tummy, the happiest 9 months I have ever experienced. I am so sorry Mommy and Daddy never got to see you grow into the wonderful person we know you will be. If you have found that piece of heaven, the piece that was waiting just for you, we hope its filled with love and tenderness and you are surrounded by your adoring loving family. One day Mommy and Daddy will come and share it with you.
On July 10th 2007 a ray of sunshine came into our lives, a very special blessing. A baby girl called Sofia Elizabeth. Thank you Alfonso, a unique and incredibly special girl that has enabled us to cry a little less and smile a little more.
Smile, our sweet sweet boy and never be too far away.
Mama and Papa xx
**A life threatening condition that if undetected will cause the baby in 95% of reported cases to die as the umbilical cord has not entered the placenta correctly and blood vessels from the cord are sitting on top of the mothers cervix. There should NEVER be bloodflow above a womens cervix in pregnancy. Currently it is not protocol in the UK for a sonographer to follow a babies cord from the belly button into the placenta at the normal 20 week ultrasound, bizarre that they only have to see it entering the baby. VP babies are all healthy and are basically a time bomb waiting to go off until the waters rupture which is then too late. If spotted a c.section is carried out at around 36 weeks gestation.Recent reports show that 555 babies die from this condition each year in Britain alone. Many cases are mis-diagnosed. Therefore a figure which is already far too high, could be higher. Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine this could happen to us. To be told shortly after losing Alfonso that VP is not looked for even though it takes seconds to check for and even though our government, the DOH and the RCOG are ALL fully aware it exists to then be told he would have survived had it have been spotted at my 20 week ultrasound was unbelievable.
In my opinion Alfonso was let down. Big time.
The tiny rosebud God picked to bloom in Heaven.
The master gardener from heaven above
Planted a seed in the garden of Love,
And from it there grew a rosebud small
That never had time to open at all.
For God in his perfect and all-wise way
Chose this rose for his heavenly bouquet,
And great was the joy of this tiny rose
To be the one our Father chose
To leave earth’s garden
For one on high
where roses bloom always and never die.
So, while you can’t see your precious rose bloom,
You know the great gardener from the upper room
Is watching and tending this wee rose with care,
Tenderly touching each petal so fair.
So think of your darling with the angels above,
Secure and contented and surrounded with love,
And remember God blessed and enriched your lives too,
For in dying your darling brought heaven closer to you.
Helen Steiner Rice
What kind of place would heaven be with all its streets of gold, if all the souls, that dwell up there like yours and mine, were old? How strange would heaven’s music sound when harps begin to ring, if children were not gathered ‘round to help the angels sing. The children that God sends to us are only just a loan, He knows we need their sunshine to make the house a home. We need the inspiration of a baby’s blessed smile. He doesn’t say they’ve come to stay, just lends them for a while. Sometimes it takes them years to do the work for which they come. Sometimes in just a month or two our Father calls them home. I like to think some souls up there bear not one sinful scar. I love to think of heaven as a place where children are.
Hello sweetheart x
Hi Alfonso,
Just a note to say I am sorry that I haven't been to light your candle for a couple of days but I have been very very busy. As you know it is nearly Halloween, and Bonfire night and I have a lot to do for Megans brother and sister....
I hope you and Megan have your costumes ready lil man.
I came to see you at your special garden on sunday. Did you see me stop by and say hi?
I lit Megan a large candle in her garden and asked her to share the light. I hope she did!
Well I will let you go off now and enjoy Paradise. Send your mummy all m love Alfonso, be sure to keep some for yourself beautiful x
All my love now and always
Julie xXx
My boy
I thought that when I created this memorial site for you that it would be a place for me to come everyday and light a candle, say a few words and maybe a prayer and feel that I was close to you. However I have come to realise that the more I dont get round to lighting the candle or leaving a message the harder it is for me to do so. I wanted to create this site to nable others never to forget you and so many people have left candles and messages for you darling more so than Mommy but you are inside me and I will carry you always in my heart. So no matter how much time goes by between each candle dont think anything different as yoiu kow Mommy is always chatting to you in her head and I am sure you hear my prayers at night dont you? I miss you as much as I always have and learning to miss deal with the loss that I have carried for so so long. I know you are near me, lets keep it that way. I love you dearly and hope that one day I will see your precious beautiful face once again. Godbless always my dear boy and my first born. Watch over Sofia and keep her safe ALWAYS. Mommy xxxx
Happy Birthday
Happy Birthday for yesterday darling. Mommy was so sad and upset yesterday I know you would'nt want me to be and you would tell me not to cry but I missed you so so much and wanted to have just 5 minutes with you to say hello and to see the beautiful toddler I know you will have grown into. Alfonso yesterday dragged on and on and then it rained and me and Zia Josie walked in the showers to come and see you when we got there everyone else was there and Daddy had gone and collected your beautiful flowers, why am I telling you all this as I am sure you saw it all. The ray of sunshine that beat down around the time you were born was so special and the showers stopped that bit was magical. Cant believe it was two years ago...two long years without you. Each day wondering what our lives would be like with you in it. I hope you did have a magical day Alfonso, I really do. Hope you played with all of your angels friends and I hope you came and gave Mommy and Daddy a special kiss as we slept. We miss you every day baby boy....what more can I say?
God bless beautiful
Mommy xx
Beautiful angel
You are such a beautiful little boy just like Brayden, have fun playing Brayden and all your other special angel friends sweetie, Big cuddles x xx x
Hold on to what is good even if it is a handful of earth,
Hold on to what you believe even if it is a tree that stands by itself,
Hold on to what you must do even if it is a long way from now,
Hold on to life even when it is easier letting go,
Hold on to my hand even when I have gone away from you. xxx
Laura,
Thank you so much for Megans presents, they are lovely.
Thank you so much for thinking of Megan.
Hope you and your family are ok.
Thinking of you all, especially your beautiful Angel Alfonso
Take care
Julie x
As long as we can dream
as long as we can think
as long as we have memory
WE LOVE YOU
As long as we have eyes to see
and ears to hear
and lips to speak
WE LOVE YOU
As long as we have a heart to feel
a soul stirring within
an imagination to hold you
WE LOVE YOU
As long as there is time
as long as there is love
as long as we have breath to speak your name
WE LOVE YOU
FOREVER WE WILL LOVE YOU
Love ~ Hugs ~ Kisses ~~ Jane...x♥x
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